Birthday party backfired!?

This is so upsetting to me! My daughter recently turned 16. We through her a sweet 16 party with 12 of her closest girlfriends. The party started with having a limo pick each of her friends up at their homes. They were taken to a spa where they spent 3 hrs getting facials, manicures, massages and having their hair and makeup done. From there the limo took them to my daughter's favorite restaurant for dinner where they gave her her gifts and hung out and had fun for a couple hrs. The night seemed to go great! All of the girls had a good time and my daughter was thrilled with the way things turned out. Within a week or so after the party, my daughter told me that she was having some trouble at school with a lot of the girls that were at her party. They've chosen to push her out of their little "group" and have started harrassing her at school. She went to her locker after school the other day and there was a note that said, "Rich ***** needs a friend" Did we over do her sweet 16?

Birthday party backfired!?
ah, dont you just love the immaturity of highschool. she needs to find new friends obviously.
Reply:If you did overdo it, it's not like you can undo it now, so let that part go.





Girl groups can be rough (and sadly it continues into adulthood). Sometimes they need to have the outcast to keep the rest of the group together. That ganging up and bullying is the unifying factor. Just try to support your daughter as she rolls through this. Learning how to deal with these odd cliques now will help her when she runs into them in adulthood.
Reply:No, you didn't. They are just jealous. Girls can be so vindictive. I am a girl and I can't stand being around other girls for this very reason. If they aren't doing better than you then they want to make you feel bad for it.
Reply:Yes, you did overdo it. You should never, ever at any rate spoil your child like that- it's bound to backfire in some way or another. Those girls could've been jealous, or spiteful of her for all this luxury they assume she gets to have every day. Teenage girls always behave that way, that never changes. Flaunting how rich you are doesn't help AT ALL, you should've just organised a fun, quiet party that didn't involve all this high-end stuff, it's bound to take a turn for the worse. They could've either enjoyed all this luxury treatment, or become jealous of your daughter. Seems like the latter beat the other one out, then.





That said, you should definitely inform the principal if your daughter is going through all this. He can then deal with the situation and discipline the girls, rather than you keeping this on the down low and end up with your daughter seriously upset. If you try and handle the situation yourself you're probably not going to gain anything from it, because you're not an authoritorial figure and they're not going to believe any claims you lay- they'd probably make fun of your daughter even more.
Reply:it sounds like her friends and spoiled little brats. if they were her friends they would appreciate that experience. ask them if they rather go play pin the tail on the donkey for her sweet 16. i would love for that to be for my sweet 16. I'm actually taking this idea into mind. the party has no reason to be mad at her. they should be great full just that they could go
Reply:I don't understand what the big deal was about the spa/dinner thing. It sounds like a great sweet 16 party. People spend way more money on sweet 16 parties than what it probably cost to do that. Jealousy must be rearing its ugly head! In my experience girls can be brutal. If it wasn't the birthday party then I'm sure they would have found something else to be mean about. Girls usually start meanness in middle school and continues through high school. I feel bad for your daughter but just tell her to hang in there. There is nothing worse than waking up one day and not having your friends to help you though the agony of high school. Hopefully this will pass soon. Usually teenage girls go back in forth with who the like/dislike at the drop of a hat.
Reply:If they were really her friends, they would have enjoyed just celebrating her birthday with her, regardless of what went on. The fact that she had a rather lavish party should have been the icing on the cake, so to speak.
Reply:They are just jealous that you spent so much money to make sure your daughter had a great sweet 16. You didn't over do her sweet 16 you did what you knew would make her sweet 16 great.
Reply:no those girls are just jealouse of her and if they do that then she needs some new friends