Wedding party and baby shower in the same year?

Okay, my husband and I have been together for five years and we have a four year old daughter. We decided to get married this month and went to the courthouse. Both of our mothers are planning a party since we got married. Basically everyone that would have been invited to a wedding. A big party planned for April. Anyway, I am 7 weeks pregnant and due in October. I really want to have another baby shower because it has been so long since I had our other child that I do not have anything! I told both mothers that maybe we should not have the party because it is just too much work, and they were insistant. Do you think it is too much to have a wedding party and a 2nd baby shower in the same year???

Wedding party and baby shower in the same year?
Two parties to celebrate two incredible events! I think people will be excited to share in these occasions with you and your family.
Reply:Its too much to ever have a second baby shower unless a different family structure is involved or you clearly specify no gifts.





Because you either gave away or sold the last gift I gave you, does not qualify you to request another gift from me. I of course may choose to bring you one, but showers make that mandatory. And your reasoning here, verifies thats your goal.
Reply:If your wedding party is in april and the baby shower is not likely till august/september at least then I don't see the problem. They are two separate things.





The baby shower will most likely be a womens only affair with your girlfriends and family so won't impact the wedding party at all. you don't even have to mention to anyone that you are having a shower until the invites are sent out and by then the wedding party will be long over. If you're still worried then have a lowkey shower and don't outright ask for large items. Just be happy with whatever people bring for your baby.





Its totally okay to do both especially since there will be nearly 5 years between the kids. I'm having a second shower and its only been 3 years but its more of a morning 'high tea' thing. Just something classy and fun for me and my girlfriends to do. The baby is just the excuse to do it!
Reply:So many women have babies in the first year of marriage I don't see any great problem.
Reply:usually the people i know do not have wedding showers if they have already set up house (live together) however it is acceptable to have a baby shower for a second child that is so far away from the first child. that being said i would celebrate the marriage, but ask that people do not bring gifts. then when the baby shower rolls around you will not feel so bad recieving gifts. which it seems like would be more useful since you already live with your husband and likely already have the house stuff under control. just some thoughts
Reply:no not at all, the same month maybe a little much only b/c no one wil have enough money to spnd what the would like on you. but the same year, celebrate you deserve it. I only wish I had a second babyshower. ALot of people have a baby shower and a wedding party for just tierselves in one year and a birthday party. enjoy the attention and have fun, like i said you deserve it.
Reply:I see no big deal. In fact, your family may be more than pleased to celebrate both events with you!
Reply:I'm getting married this March 22nd and having a baby shower in may or june of this year! I dont think its a big deal at all! Congrats!!!!
Reply:well, I would go with the wedding party. and if you just had a baby shower a littler over 4 years ago I don't think that you should expect another one. I could see if you youngest was over the age of 7 years than yes.


But if you wanted to have a wedding/ baby I think that would be better than 2 showers/ partys in one year.


I is just my thoughts on it. Good luck!!!!!
Reply:if that is what they want to do--let them--you could explain that you would rather have baby shower since you do not have things for baby now--but if their heart is set on a wedding shower ask them to combine the two and tell people that you want gifts\money for the coming birth instead---sounds like they are really happy you two decided to get married--big congratulations on everything
Reply:My step daughter gpt married last April and had her baby last September and it was fine to have the showers in one year. They are both such happy times you need to share them with your friends and family.


Good LUck and congrats on both
Reply:NOT AT ALL! In 2006, I had my son on July 25th and then Oct 7th I had a big wedding, church, reception.. the whole bit. I think that it won't be a burden to have both parties.
Reply:It is not unusual in 2008 to have the baby and then the wedding showers. I just went to a baby shower in Oct. and the wedding is in Aug. Granted that seems like another year but Oct. 07 to Aug. 07 is only 10 months. No problem. Just go for it and be happy. This is a different world we live in.


However, not always are there showers for 2nd babies. People who are close to you usually buy a gift for the new baby anyway.


Good luck to you and your husband and kiddies.