Should I ditch my best friends party to go vacation?

Ok, my friend is having a really big sweet sixteen later this summer. However, over the summer I always go on vacation with my family down south, and this time I'm going to be on vacation the same time her party is going to be.





Note: My friend has been planning this party forever, and I was supposed to be in her court of people who will be dancing and sitting at the head table. Also, I already told my friend I might not be able to go, because I have to spend time with my family. She knows this, but of course she wants me to spend time with her on her party. She has been talking about this party sense last school year and it’s like the biggest thing that will happen for her.





Note: My sweet 16 was a few months before hers and all my friends got together and came to my party. They even put their money together and got me a gift that was over $200. However, the gift was a surprise and I repeatedly told my friends I didn’t want a party. I had the party anyway, because they said they had a big gift for me. Thusly, I feel like I’m unofficially required to go because they did all of this for me. I do want to seem like a bad or selfish friend, but I always spend my summer with my family.





Anyway, should I go to her party and be a good friend, or should I just go on vacation?

Should I ditch my best friends party to go vacation?
You should go on vacation with your family. You are growing up and will not have much longer to enjoy family vacations. However your friend will have a 17th and 18 birthday party, I'm sure and graduation and the prom. All of those are celebrations and you will be there for her at those times. If she does not understand, then maybe she isn't a true friend.
Reply:go to the party and go on your vacation the next day
Reply:Try to find the answer yourself. Turn the tables and pretend you are her. What would you feel like if your best friend didn't give up one vacation with their family to come to your special party. Couldn't you join your family after the party?
Reply:You can go on summer vacation the next day. Or if everything is already planned out, you can spend some time at her party and then leave. That way, she wouldn't feel like you ditched her and be happy that you attended the party even though you had plans and that will make her feel special. :D Good luck!!