Birthday Party!?

So,


I'm not very popular at my small private school, but there's always room for change, right? I've been wanting to have a huge party for a while now, and I think I'm ready to have it. I'm turning 14 this year and I really want to do something that will blow everyone's mind. It's going to be a co-ed party, so I'm open to any suggestions there.





I can't choose between a dance, or a regular party. And if it was a regular party, then what would we do? Some people at my school are very judgemental people and I wouldn't want to gain the reputation of the girl with the boring party. I'm not looking for any cheesy suggestions or suggestions that would seem like it came from a parent, so no cheesy games or anything like that.





If anyone has any good teenaged themes, PLEASE let me know.





Thank you a lot.

Birthday Party!?
have a disco with loud music and like sweets and coke and stuff and that would be cool %26amp; have a smoke machine and lights %26amp; stuff - i went to a party like this it rocked.





much love x
Reply:I remember being 14.





However, a good party--ANY good party--has a few key elements.


Food


Music


Civilized people who can carry on a decent conversation.


Oops, we're talking teenagers, right? JUST JOKING


Let's try Parents out of sight but within earshot.





A theme can be as simple or as elaborate as you can pay for.


At 14, simple is best, because you have YEARS of parties ahead of you, and the challenge is always topping the last one.





Some IDEAS:


Video games - everyone brings their favorite, and you rent or borrow game systems and TVs. NO interaction, sounds boring to me, but my son thinks it would be great.


DDR or Karaoke - some folks are born performers.


Dress Up - Everyone makes the theme - hippies, togas, sports, rock star


A scavenger hunt


A barbeque can be a fiesta or a luau with a little planning


Make your own pizzas or sundaes or smoothies


Depending on your resources, you could rent a venue: Pool Party, dinner out (not just Pizza--you could dress up and go somewhere fancy), arcade, skating, even golf.


If you are active, play a sport: basketball, softball, etc.


Maybe your parent would take a half dozen of you out on the town: a concert or show or dinner or a movie. You might go as a group to a ball game. Please be reasonable with your parent(s): Find out what their budget is, help clean up - before and after, be considerate if they have to go to work the next day. Make arrangements for your siblings; help plan a sleepover or play date for them so they don't feel left out.


Pay attention to how big your yard or house is (think lines at the bathroom) , and put special or very valuable pieces away, just to be safe.





Off The Hook Parties, at your age, usually involve sex, drugs and/or alcohol. Often at least one person is embarrassed, or sick afterwards. Would you set your FRIENDS up like that?


REALLY, what to do at a party has more to do with the guests. Some folks have to be entertained, some are there for the drugs or alcohol, or free food; some parties are all talk.


If you want a huge party, but don't have the social circle to pull it off, this is gonna get expensive. The trend is to buy more than you need, hoping for drop ins.


You don't want judgmental folks at YOUR party, anyway.


The BEST parties involve people you like, sharing things you like to do.


You could have a great party with no more than twenty folks over for music and munchies for about two or three hours and six or fewer girlfriends stay for a sleepover with mani/pedis and makeovers and gossip.


You DON"T want so many people at your party that you can't spend a little time with each of them. Keep it small and short to start. Better to leave them hoping for more, than have it drag on past the fun time.





Boring parties are a combination of lack of preparation (DON'T Run out of FOOD, make sure the music will play, etc.) and Boring Guests. Don't invite folks who crave excitement at someone else's expense. You mostly can't impress judgmental people - their problems are internal.





On a more somber note: Have a backup plan in case your "friends" are no-shows. Get RSVPs. Make some cool invites to get'm excited about coming. Ask a good friend to co-host. If you have only a few guests, don't be mopey that more folks didn't come. Look at who did make it and judge the value of your friendships accordingly. This is not the time to be catty. Those who will talk TO you, will talk ABOUT you.





If the party seems to be floundering, DO NOT get desperate and act or spend out of character to impress.


This is NOT the time for 7 min in Heaven or sneaking into your parent's stash.


You have to go to this school all year. It's better to be thought boring, with a couple of friends, than to be the girl with the rep 'She'll do ANYTHING' because you're trying to impress.


Do Not Invite Everyone. Limit your invitations to folks you like or want to know better. Try to pick folks who have shared interests. Remember your budget. Pay attention to your guests.


Only very well planned parties can really be enjoyed by the host. Don't over extend yourself, so You can still have a good time. Remember, those parties in the movies have a whole crew to set up and clean up.


It's the little touches that set you apart as a good hostess. Try to cultivate those mannerisms now, and by the time you're throwing HS parties, you'll be the 'hostess with the mostest.'





You can throw your reputation, especially with your parents and teachers, so easily trying to fit in with a fickle crowd. Don't let the party spirit get in the way of good sense. Be true to yourself, be yourself and show off a little with your taste and flair. Just don't waste your creative energy on folks who really can't see things past their own little clique. Enjoy the respect and admiration of folks worth respecting and admiring. Cultivate friends that you would like to party with for a long time.

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