Bachelorette Party for under 21...?

I have read a few post about this but my situation is different. I am the bride and my best friend wants to know how she can include the 16 yr olds at my bachelorette party. I have two 16 yr olds (boy and girl) and two 17 yr olds (boy and girl), my sister is 20 and everyone else is over 21.


I know that the bridal party is supposed to plan the bachelorette party but at their age they can't. How do we include them so they won't feel left out?


I suggested just having the bridal shower earlier in the day so they can attend that and have the bachelorette party later in the day but they still want to be able to attend the "fun" party.


Help us with some suggestions please. Thanks in advance.

Bachelorette Party for under 21...?
Why don't you all have appetizers and play a few bachelorette party games at someone's house for a while before the older people go out? That way they can be included in some of the fun.
Reply:have two one for the minors and the older ppl and then change toe mood and let the young ppl go to the movies and continue to party
Reply:I am confused about why the boys are being invited to a bacherlorette party? It's usually just the girls.





I would suggest having a tea party at someone's house with little h'oure dourves and snacks and then have a "night on the town" with the 21+ girls later that night or another evening.
Reply:Rather than going out for your party, why not have it at home? Have an old fashioned sleepover for the girls - all ages? Everyone brings an appetizer and beverage of their choice and you stay up with movies and hair and makeup and just 'girl' stuff. If those over 21 choose to drink it's their choice and all keys are locked up until the next morning. The younger set understand ahead of time that they will not be offered nor will they be allowed to imbibe.





Option #2 has already been half suggested. Going to dinner before the big night out to somewhere fun, with not only the younger set, but also the Mothers of the Bride and Groom (and any other special people you'd like to invite). After a semi 'tame' dinner the party crowd goes out while the others go home.





Option #3 is a variable of #2 - include the men for dinner (again parents and youngsters) then everyone splits up and goes to their own respective evening plans afterwards.





By including the elders along with the youngsters (so to speak) you aren't singling out the younger crowd as the only ones not going out for the 'fun' part, and no one feels left out at that point.





Good Luck and Have Fun!!
Reply:Unfortunately, they won't be able to attend the "fun" party because Uncle Sam say's so.





Plan the "kid" party earlier in the day and the "grownup" party at night. Don't skimp out on your party just because you have some minors.





I'm in the same boat. For the "kid" party (we *don't* call it that to their face), we're going to an amusement park. Later that night the girls and I will be going to a club.





Good luck :)





-kiki
Reply:My best friends sister got married a few years ago and at the time my friend and I were only 16 and 17. We went out to dinner that night and then went to some bars and clubs. One of her sisters bridesmaids called a few bars and explained the situation and they agreed to let us in as long as we didn't drink. They did the same with the clubs we went to. It was a really good idea they were able to incorporate us in the bachelorette party and we all had a lot of fun.
Reply:Start the evening by going out to eat somewhere fun and then when that is over- the younger people in your wedding party can go home while you continue with your night of over 21 fun! Or host a makeup party with the entire bridal party. Everyone will get makeup tips for your big day that go with their dresses and then those over 21 can go out and celebrate and you will already be all "glammed" for your night out.
Reply:Think back to the last time you had a slumber party . . . probably been forever right? I threw a bachelorette party for a friend of mine who wasn't yet 21, and we had an 80's slumber party, everyone dressed up in the craziest 80's fashion we could find and we all slept on the floor slumber party style. We did a panty potluck were everyone brought a pair of NEW sexy panties and I put 1 each in a goody bag with scrunchies and other obnoxious 80's stuff. We also did pin the woohoo on the groom, got someone to take a picture of the groom in the buff, hidding the naughty bits of course, and made our own version of pin the tail on the donkey. Try to find somewhat appropriate games that the teenagers can play, I don't the boys should be or would want to be part of the bachelorette party, but I think you can come up with some activities appropriate for the other 2 girls.
Reply:every wedding i have been involved in that had young bridesmaids, they did not participate in the bachelorette party
Reply:Your idea sounds great!


Let them have hands on experience with the decision making for the bridal party... save the fun party for the over 21!


Congratulations, good luck, and have FUN!
Reply:I like your idea. You should have the bridal shower where they are invited and can have fun and later that night go out with just the adult. The "FUN" party is usually for people who are over 21. You know you could always have a fun or pleasure party where anyone can really go. I don't think the boys would care to go but the girls could. I love them. THey are so FUNNY!