New Years' Eve party invitation issue?

I need some advice for my plans for New Year's Eve 2006. Most of my group of friends (we are all high school/college kids and are very close) are going to a party at A's house. They have remarked about how they are expecting to see us at A's house on New Year's. However, A has not actually invited my boyfriend and I to the party. The invites were simple messages on Facebook, however A did ask for an RSVP. When asked if we would be attending the party (A was not around then), my boyfriend and I responded that we had not been invited. Other guests insisted that A would not mind and that she had asked them to notify anyone that she forgot. However, my boyfriend and I feel uncomfortable just coming if A is not expecting us. Adding to this situation is the fact that we have been invited to two other parties- a party at some friends of my family and a smaller gathering of our other friends. How should we deal with this situation, since everyone is expecting us to be at this party?

New Years' Eve party invitation issue?
Advise A of the situation only if you actually would like to attend A's party. If you actually plan on attending one of the other functions that you mentioned, then don't even bother thinking about A's party, just let your friends know that you will be otherwise engaged that night. Decide which party you are going to have the most fun at and make arrangements to attend that party even if it is at A's. Party Up!!
Reply:I would ask A if it would be alright if you and your boyfriend stopped by for awhile, but reassure them that you do have other plans, but that you just wanted to stop by and say hello and wish everyone a Happy New Year.
Reply:Who is more important to you, your boyfriend or your group of friends? If it's your boyfriend, then ask him what he wants to do and follow his lead. Don't worry about those who expect you to be at A's party. They'll get over it. Since you are "coupled", you'll probably have more fun at a smaller gathering where you and your boyfriend can have a little privacy. But if your boyfriend wants to attend A's party, then just give A a phone call. Chances are the party will come up in conversation and he/she will be mortified that you were omitted from the guest list.
Reply:Go with what makes you more comfortable - I say the other firends sound more interesting and fun anyway.